3 Biggest Challenges Of Medical Marriages During Residency (And How To Over come Them)

You need to connect, connect, connect — as much as you can.

I don’t care how you do it, but do it.

Even if it’s a text, phone call, FaceTime, or quick 🍆

Send pics, make jokes, and make them realize (and miss!) what they’re missing out at home.

Obviously there will be times when they won’t respond like while they’re seeing patients or in a procedure. (But be reassured, they would respond if they could.) But keep trying to connect.

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Preparing as a Couple for Boards Season

During seasons of added responsibilities our roles may need to be readjusted—we may have to fulfill new roles that don’t come naturally in order to encourage our spouse to thrive in the place they are needed. Rather than allowing resentment to creep in through jealousy and comparison, work toward supporting one another in your *shared* vision and watch how appreciation will bloom and flourish in your marriage…even during this busier than normal season!

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Stolen Joy: A Pitfall of Comparison

Emily Vacek has not always bloomed where she was planted. But through the hard and life of endless transitions as a fellows wife, she has grown in wisdom. I just love how open Emily is with her story and how she puts words to the comparison struggle we all face at one time or another. […]

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Forgiven

We can choose to carry unforgiveness around. Let’s face it, we all get hurt by harsh words, severe wounds caused by people we have trusted and loved, or even just being stood up by a friend because she got busy and forgot the date. But unforgiveness becomes a heavy burden we drag around. Then the next injury makes it heavier, it begins to pile and turn to bitterness. It affects our marriage, new friendships, and family.

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An Answer for those Married but Single Parenting

Yesterday, while shopping at Sam’s Club the kids and I of course stopped by the pancake and syrup samples lady. It was organic syrup so I didn’t feel quite as bad allowing my children to devour…allowing myself to devour a piece. A middle aged, Columbia wearing gentlemen came up and commented to the worker that […]

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Embracing The Loneliness of Medical Wife Life

Our guest post is has come at the perfect time for me personally. Tom is in his last month of rotations before four major board exams. Yes, FOUR! Loneliness is definitely felt during this time. Let me introduce you to Meredith, a pediatric nurse turned stay at home mom to two littles and wife to […]

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The Single Most Important Decision You Make for Your Children

They shared with us everything from the daily schedule and details that made this school experience wonderful to how this choice would set our child up for success and a path to the Ivy League. After all, wasn’t that the dream that everyone had for their child?

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Medical School Isolation for the Spouse

I’ve found more and more husbands and wives struggling with isolation. Many share the expectation that stress from medical school applications and interviews, possibly newly married, and a big move would decrease after the first block starts. Only it increases. The medical student is overwhelmed with adjusting to an intense schedule and trying to figure out a study routine where he or she can actually get through the material not to mention one that will allow for enough time to review before quizzes and exams. Sleep. Eat. And not burnout in the first block….While non-medical spouse is left exploring a new town. Alone. Meeting new friends. Alone. Applying for jobs. Alone.

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A Happy Life of Endless Transitions

So there we were one year into marriage both having moved a combined 29 times in our life, now moving for the second time as a married couple to a rental house within a week of Tom starting medical school. For the record, I would not recommend finding a place to live one week before starting medical school

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