Our closest friends and family often don’t realized the day in and day of out of life of our calling to medicine…But listening for understanding is always helpful! As someone who’s mission is to advocate for you and your families health”, I’ve been very slow and spars with sharing our families experience during the COVID pandemic, but as numbers continue to rise in the United States it seems like the appropriate time.Read More
After some scary things had come to light locally regarding children’s safety a friend was asking for the best books to better teach her small children. I went through many book options and she wanted more…more developmentally appropriate for her children, more proper anatomy, more positivity. She also wanted less fear and fewer opinions…Read More
The two categories that are follow up questions after residency interviews you may seek to answer through a quick google search, the booklet/folder the program handed out, email contact with the program coordinator, or if more appropriate a resident your spouse connected with at the preinterview dinner.Read More
Increasing a student’s income by $15,000 in one month is a pure miracle in my opinion and one that was given to us! I want to share this with you, because it’s simple and it may be possible for you as well.Read More
You need to connect, connect, connect — as much as you can.
I don’t care how you do it, but do it.
Even if it’s a text, phone call, FaceTime, or quick 🍆
Send pics, make jokes, and make them realize (and miss!) what they’re missing out at home.
Obviously there will be times when they won’t respond like while they’re seeing patients or in a procedure. (But be reassured, they would respond if they could.) But keep trying to connect.Read More
During seasons of added responsibilities our roles may need to be readjusted—we may have to fulfill new roles that don’t come naturally in order to encourage our spouse to thrive in the place they are needed. Rather than allowing resentment to creep in through jealousy and comparison, work toward supporting one another in your *shared* vision and watch how appreciation will bloom and flourish in your marriage…even during this busier than normal season!Read More
Emily Vacek has not always bloomed where she was planted. But through the hard and life of endless transitions as a fellows wife, she has grown in wisdom. I just love how open Emily is with her story and how she puts words to the comparison struggle we all face at one time or another. […]Read More
We can choose to carry unforgiveness around. Let’s face it, we all get hurt by harsh words, severe wounds caused by people we have trusted and loved, or even just being stood up by a friend because she got busy and forgot the date. But unforgiveness becomes a heavy burden we drag around. Then the next injury makes it heavier, it begins to pile and turn to bitterness. It affects our marriage, new friendships, and family.Read More
With a schedule that literally changed every few weeks (let’s be honest- every day), our marriage roles did too!Read More
Yesterday, while shopping at Sam’s Club the kids and I of course stopped by the pancake and syrup samples lady. It was organic syrup so I didn’t feel quite as bad allowing my children to devour…allowing myself to devour a piece. A middle aged, Columbia wearing gentlemen came up and commented to the worker that […]Read More
Hard is not an excuse to be bitter! Its especially not an excuse to shift blame toward your husband. But Sunday I was there.Read More
Our guest post is has come at the perfect time for me personally. Tom is in his last month of rotations before four major board exams. Yes, FOUR! Loneliness is definitely felt during this time. Let me introduce you to Meredith, a pediatric nurse turned stay at home mom to two littles and wife to […]Read More
“I had expectations for marriage of not necessarily living above our means, but having means…and then medical school started.”Read More
They shared with us everything from the daily schedule and details that made this school experience wonderful to how this choice would set our child up for success and a path to the Ivy League. After all, wasn’t that the dream that everyone had for their child?Read More
“There are perks to having hail the size of a baseball hit your home. Here’s to a light-hearted post of the journey of renovating our first home.”Read More
I’ve found more and more husbands and wives struggling with isolation. Many share the expectation that stress from medical school applications and interviews, possibly newly married, and a big move would decrease after the first block starts. Only it increases. The medical student is overwhelmed with adjusting to an intense schedule and trying to figure out a study routine where he or she can actually get through the material not to mention one that will allow for enough time to review before quizzes and exams. Sleep. Eat. And not burnout in the first block….While non-medical spouse is left exploring a new town. Alone. Meeting new friends. Alone. Applying for jobs. Alone.Read More
So there we were one year into marriage both having moved a combined 29 times in our life, now moving for the second time as a married couple to a rental house within a week of Tom starting medical school. For the record, I would not recommend finding a place to live one week before starting medical schoolRead More
How much of the stimulus refund do I qualify for? Most medical students and their families will get a full refundRead More
We opened our email at noon today and….Read More