Engaged, Now off to Medical School

I had no idea what medical school was like or how we’d prepare for marriage. But, life moments build upon each other! I had helped with medical school applications, night classes to get pre-reqs (for which I still ask—why Physics??), and supported MCAT study sessions. Discerning marriage taught both of us the attitude that marriage is a journey you go on together. In the same way, that attitude carried over to medical school training…

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Wedding Anniversary Reflections for Millennials

I married my best friend after having really only known him for eighteen months. Insert surprise emoji face! You would think making one of the biggest decision of your life, one you literally have to live with daily would require a little more preparation.

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Medical School Isolation for the Spouse

I’ve found more and more husbands and wives struggling with isolation. Many share the expectation that stress from medical school applications and interviews, possibly newly married, and a big move would decrease after the first block starts. Only it increases. The medical student is overwhelmed with adjusting to an intense schedule and trying to figure out a study routine where he or she can actually get through the material not to mention one that will allow for enough time to review before quizzes and exams. Sleep. Eat. And not burnout in the first block….While non-medical spouse is left exploring a new town. Alone. Meeting new friends. Alone. Applying for jobs. Alone.

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When Your Fiancé Applies to Medical School…

Around three years ago on a perfect North Carolina snow day, Tom proposed and I said, “Yes!” I also said goodbye to all my prior expectations of a “normal” life. Supporting him was more important than the hypothetical dream life I had imagined, but that didn’t mean I didn’t experience some disappointment as I let go of expectations.

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