You need to connect, connect, connect — as much as you can.
I don’t care how you do it, but do it.
Even if it’s a text, phone call, FaceTime, or quick 🍆
Send pics, make jokes, and make them realize (and miss!) what they’re missing out at home.
Obviously there will be times when they won’t respond like while they’re seeing patients or in a procedure. (But be reassured, they would respond if they could.) But keep trying to connect.
With a schedule that literally changed every few weeks (let’s be honest- every day), our marriage roles did too!
I think the truth is that many of us find ourselves still “performing” long after the curtains have closed. We keep acting like the show goes on, but its time for an intermission.
It was hard for him to rest though, at first…He felt like he as falling behind. That his classmates would get the upper hand and he would suffer for it. But he never did. His grades never went down, he never felt behind in class or in simulations. He felt like he was retaining more information during the week.
If your husband is in the midst of a residency program, I feel quite certain that I know your feelings about him completing a fellowship. You are over it. You’ve been doing this already far, FAR too long, and you’re ready to move on to the rest of your life. You want your man back…
However. HOWEVER. There are several reasons why a fellowship might be in the best interest of your husband’s future (and subsequently, yours!)